Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Kindness

When you have a puppy tag along with you to various public places, you get to meet a lot of people that you may otherwise never have.  Sometimes they can be rude, like when I walked into an empty sporting complex, past a sign that read, "No Dogs Allowed Except Service Animals." and the man walking in behind me sarcastically asked if I knew how to read.  

But more often than not, you get to interact with really sweet people who genuinely want to learn about Dante, and are cheering on his success.  When we were out to lunch on Sunday, I had the privilege of meeting two more of these.

Every single table in the main area was full, so they had opened up the private room (that can be reserved) for everyone.  There were two rows of table along each wall, with a narrow isle in between.  There was only one table left, right in the middle.  Because service animals do go pretty much everywhere, they need to be able to scrunch up small and stay out of the way, but the tables were so close that there was literally no where to put Dante where he wouldn't protrude into the isle.  A sixty-six pound Retriever does not fit completely under a chair, but in an attempt to get him as out-of-the-way as possible, I commanded Dante to go "under" my chair.  He did, but as he scooted around to get more comfortable, he moved the chair too.  It was really quite pathetic to watch, and I think everyone who saw him had pity (but trust me - he has those puppy eyes down pat!).  

There were two women at the table behind us who saw him and exclaimed, "Aww, poor baby!"  I replied that he would be OK because he does need to get used to itTheir table was in the corner, and therefore had some extra space up against the wall.  They said, "Let's switch tables.  He will have so much more room over here."  Before I could protest, they were gathering up their drinks, food and laptops and moving tables.  While it is important for Dante to be able to stay small, he does it well when asked to (and it is a pain to worry about someone stepping on him), so I thanked them profusely.  

 You never really know how people will react to a dog in public.  We have had multiple people roll their eyes and act disgusted at a the sight of a dog in the produce isle - and there is that one cashier at Kroger who always screams and refuses to check us out because she is afraid of dogs.  It is not every day that someone goes so out of the way to show kindness to a stranger.  But I was so appreciative for these sweet ladies.  

Usually I say no to petting as Dante is very people-oriented and will seek out attention.  But he had been great this day, so as we got up to leave, we said goodbye and one last "thanks" to them, and I asked if they wanted to greet him.  They told me that they didn't want to ask, but were so glad I offered.  Dante soaked up the attention and we parted our ways with smiles all around.  

So, today would you show kindness to a stranger?  It is such a blessing and goes farther than you think!

10 comments:

  1. *I* am always second guessing taking our Puppies in Training into restaurants and grocery stores. I know when I see a puppy/working dog in those establishments I do NOT care, nor think twice about it. But why am *I* always worried about what other people think?! I guess out of all the places to train your pup, the food establishments may bring up quick negativity and I don't want confrontation!! I do it anyway, but it is not my favorite outing. However, I decided to challenge myself with Kolby from day one. So far grocery stores are the only outings he's been to - so I'm off to a good start. Eventually *I* will get over it. hahaha.

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    1. I know what you mean, that is one reason that when I started taking Dante to our most frequented grocery store, I introduced myself to the manager to share some about CCI and thank them for being so welcoming. I was very self-conscious about being in places that sell food, but 99% of people understand and are very welcoming. We have only had an issue once, where they unfortunately treated us horribly and screamed and yelled all the way out to the car. Ever since then my heart races a little when I take Dante somewhere new, anxious about people's reaction. Sometimes I wonder if people would act differently if THEY were the ones that NEEDED these dog's help.

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  2. You guys are doing great! Just keep telling yourself that one of your biggest, most challenging jobs is to educate the public and that means everybody :) When we first moved to our little backwater area in Virginia practically no one had seen a service dog or one in training. Now we have "trained" many members of our community for the good, so they ask "Where's your dog?" if he isn't with me, like they actually miss him. And they are proud to tell me how they know not to pet. Or they will admonish other people not to pet. I love it. Keep up the good work with your dogs and your community. You are making a difference.

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    1. Thanks, Jenny! I am already starting to get the "Where's the dog?" when I go to frequented places, hehe! I love reading you blog, as I learn so much from more experienced raisers!

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  3. Thank you, thank you, thank you! For all of the patience you have with Dante and the experiences you are giving him. It is because of puppy raisers like you Hannah, that my husband can go out in public with a well-behaved service dog that has better manners than many children I have seen in grocery stores and restaurants!

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    1. Thank YOU so, so much for the encouraging comments you leave here! They mean more to me than you know, and I am so inspired by Jim and Nettie!

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  4. I loved this post. I've been looking through your blog as I just graduated with Cassius, who came from your chapter. And even in just the 8 weeks I've been at home with him, I am really struck by the kindness of the people I meet with him. If you want to follow our journey, both my blog (www.stillicantbesilent.com) & his Facebook page (facebook.com/cassiusthecciservicedog) have, if nothing else, lots of adorable photos :)

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    1. Thank you so much! Congratulations to you and Cassius! I added you to the blog roll if you don't mind!

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  5. actually, Cassius totally didn't come from your region

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